Board Thread:Site Discussions/@comment-20015702-20140405191815/@comment-20015702-20140406055728

Shadowunleashed13 wrote: Okay, I do have something to say on this issue, and I'll try to keep it short.

Human stubbornness is atrocious. Sometimes differences cannot be settled. Some fights do not end naturally. In cases which can be described as "user A hates user B", then your objective is to keep user A and user B's interactions from becoming a source of strife among the community whenever the issue may arise. In cases which can be described as "user A disagrees with user B's opinion", then it's relatively harmless until personal attacks, foul language, or general rude behavior is introduced into the mix.

There are extremes, and we should be careful to avoid them. Standing aside and letting fights rage is one extreme. Forcing users not to express their opinions is another. No one course of action is best in all, or even most cases. Each situation has a certain set of circumstances, and these circumstances must dictates one's reaction. Only a correct understanding of human psychology will help you decide what course to take.

In other words: we will never have total "peace" among our users. I don't quite agree with what seems to be a proposed means (weathering fights by not stopping them) to the end of "peace".

Another thing: you said "one will keep fighting till his/her point has been proven". There's a huge difference between proving your point and getting people to agree with your point. Proving your point is getting people to understand that you have reasons for your opinion, getting people to agree with your point is convincing them that your opinion is right. Everyone gets the two mixed up, and I have no idea why. As great of a speech that is; I think you are missing out the the point that I believe Admins and users are handling arguments poorly. The way they attempt to stop users from arguing only makes the situation worse, which results in some complaining to me. Then ofcourse, I am suppose to reason out with that user (usually the lower-class "misunderstood" or "new" user) and that results in mutual understanding between me and that user, not the one he/she was fighting with. So that being said, people here don't reason out properly.

And point proven or agreed; from experience, users don't let that happen here.