User blog comment:Kagimizu/So, Yeah.../@comment-5215338-20140204160214

Oh boy, does this mean we need to clear this up again? Here's what happened from my perspective.

To put a long story short, a few conflicts in the past had revealed that Bullet was actually hated by some people, but I thought all that was behind us. A few months ago, I noticed Bullet seemed to be assuming bad faith at multiple instances in site discussions. He would interpret what I thought were harmless comments as personal attacks. So I left a somewhat unnecessarily long message on his talk page reminding him to assume good faith and he responded he was aware of his faults and that he was abrasive by nature. I guess that abrasiveness, along with assuming bad faith, came into play later.

Bullet started spying on chat, using chat logs to monitor conversations even while he was away. My guess is that he saw minor disputes and some people confessing that they weren't exactly fond of him.

Last month, we started getting into conflicts more often, in almost every time we met. Mainly disagreements on site discussions, and on his most recent blog he even deleted my comment. Finally, I decided to PM him on chat and try to sort our differences. He just told me that he had heard some insulting things concerning me and therefore he was trying to avoid me. He talked down to me like I was 5 years old, which didn't help either, and although I didn't lash out at him, I assume he interpreted my legitimate attempts at humility as arrogance.

The day he left, I took action on his deletion of my blog comment. He suggested I start a site discussion if I had a problem with admins being able to delete blog comments by other users without their consent... so I made this. Although my intentions were to criticize the behavior, not the person, I think he interpreted it as a personal attack.

And he left, and he hates us. But most of us never hated him back.

My opinion: I think this is a good lesson on the importance of assuming good faith and trying to interpret others as best as possible. Bullet took offense too easily because he assumed bad faith, and in the end, when he let his emotions get the better of him, he left. I know it sounds like I'm bashing Bullet, but I do believe the fault was mostly his... although it may have been partly ours.